Obituary for Willow

On August 7, 2014 I had to say goodbye to my best friend of the last 13-1/2 years.  It’s never easy parting ways but when the other dies it is 10,000x worse than any other goodbye.

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Willow wasn’t just my dog.  I was her human.  On the first day of our meeting I went to the breeder to pick up the gift of a dog.  I had an awful 1999/2000 with sickness and surgeries and my friends knew before all this I was looking to get a puppy.  I had even selected the breed…Pembroke Welsh Corgi.  Fortune was on my side when my friend knew someone who had bred their Corgi’s and our companionship was forged.

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Willow and her siblings were born on December 5, 2000.  In February, Willow and her sibs were old enough to be adopted.  I went to the breeder’s home and there they all were.  So many fuzzie bunnies.  It was Willow who picked me.  She came over as I played with other puppies and laid her head on my shoe while I was sitting on the floor and fell asleep.   I knew right there she was the one.

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Willow Carrots came home and filled our lives with love and fuzziness!  Boy do Corgis shed like the dickens.  She was there for all the good times and there for the blackest moments of my life.  I’m not so sure she was on board when we added a sister to the mix two years later.  Mickie is a Boston Terrier.  The word Terror is in her name…enough said.

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The two became inseparable.  Best of pals because Willow was so laid back to contrast Mickie’s almost manic personality.  Now Mickie seems lost without her bestest pal.  As do we all.

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Her favorite season was winter.  She was quite the Snow Bunny.  She loved snacks and her favorite human food was munchkin donuts.  She liked to sleep on her back and gave you the stink eye if you woke her from her slumber.

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Willow was very sick in the end but she managed to make us smile in the morning or when she’d get a boost of energy and start, what she would call, running.

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She was loved by all that met her and she was especially loved by her family.

Goodbyes are painful…especially when they are permanent.

Goodbye my beautiful friend…until we see each other on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge.

So A Minnesota Law Now Rules The Day In Tennessee?

Yesterday Circuit Court Judge Russell E. Simmons Jr. ruled that a ban on Same-Sex Marriage isn’t unconstitutional.  He bases his decision in part on an obscure case from Minnesota from 1972.

He wants to defend “Traditional Marriage”.   Which version of “Traditional Marriage” is he trying to defend?  How is denying a tax paying citizen the same rights that other tax paying citizens have with no question.    He basically is upholding a discriminatory “Voted by the People in 2006″ Amendment to the state constitution.  Amendments to the constitution should never be hurtful to any of its citizens yet this one is designed to single out one demographic of the people.

Judge Simmons had to go back to 1972 and a whole other State to find something to validate his discrimination.  Marriage is right not a privilege.  I just wish once someone would cite how Gay Marriage has harmed Straight Marriage?   Again…if you are so worried about the sanity of Marriage legislate Divorce.

Like all common sense approaches I offer this to the people repulsed by the idea of Gay Marriage…if you are that fearful then just don’t get married to someone who is gay.  Sounds simple enough.  Example…If you are on a diet does everyone have to give up donuts because it makes you uncomfortable?  NO…that would be ridiculous!

My Rant is getting long so I will sum up.  I have never come across anyone harmed by my Legal Marriage.  In fact when I got legally married all I got was a Congratulations.  No one burst into flames, or tears and not one of my friend’s marriages disintegrated at my revelation and yes…God was apparently not ready to struck me down.  So how about we follow the laws of the land and stop using religious ideology as a reason to legislate discrimination.

Hey Judge Simmons…I don’t care if you or anyone else do not like “the gays” or their “lifestyle” (Not sure what that is actually) but do not try to prop yourself up by saying I don’t deserve the same rights as everyone else.  Don’t dig deep to find obscure laws to justify your fear!  It’s discrimination plain and simple.  This issue isn’t complex.  And really in the end GOD will JUDGE all of those who JUDGED others in his name.  Where do these supposed Christians think they will be standing when God Calls…with him?

I’m going to say probably not.

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On Saturday, the Wife and I headed to the beach just for fun.  It wasn’t really a good weekend for the beach due to all the rain but just to be that close to the ocean is amazing in its own.  I was taking random pictures (because I’m always taking random pictures) and The Mrs. stuck her hand up in front of the camera.  This is the cool picture that happened:

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Sometimes the most awesome moments happen at the beach!  I can’t wait to go back!

Sarah McLachlan and I Sing The Sad Songs

Things have been crazy for me the last few weeks.  Last Thursday Me and the Mrs. saw Sarah McLachlan in concert.  She was amazing!

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I love going to see concerts where the acts sound just like the albums they produce.  She is one of these singers.  She uses instruments and not a lot of techno-goop.  That stuff works for acts like The Pet Shop Boys but not for people like Sarah McLachlan.

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A couple of weeks ago we saw The Backstreet Boys in concert and they also put on an amazing show.  Love their new songs and glad to see them around all these years later still performing.

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The sound great too.

Well I sang along with Sarah like I do in the morning while driving to work.  I think she was okay with me being her back up singer.  But look out Sarah because I may just cut my own album one day!

Stop Trying To Kill Me With Your Smell!

This is just going to be a rant against those people who over perfume and over cologne.  Seriously people some of us have allergies to your stank!  Although you think your fragrance is exotic and alluring all it is to me is an awful attack of allergies followed by a massive headache.

Men are heartily guilty of over doing the cologne.  They splash it on like after shave.  Boys…cologne is not after shave.  They then wipe their hands on their shirt or jacket and the smell doubles.  It’s not sexy…it’s smelly.  Over powering smelly.

It isn’t just men who make this mistake, women are just as guilty in my watery eyes as the men.  When I was younger and starting to do girly things my Mother taught me the “spray and walk into the mist” method.  It works.  You get just the right amount of perfume and it’s spread out so it tends not to be over powering.  How about the old a dab behind each ear method?  Equally as successful and keeps the fragrance to a minimum for those of us who do not want to participate in your hygiene.

So to end this little tantrum…let’s keep it in perspective people.  Not everyone loves the way you smell so to force you stink on everyone isn’t very fair.  So I promise not to fart all over the place if you keep the cologne to a spritz…deal?

RA Is Not OA

I’m not in remission any more.  I miss it.  I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and I recently know two people who died of complications with RA.  First, was a woman I used to work with years ago.  We had mutual friends and when I heard she was dying I was shocked.  The second person was a young woman in my support group.  It made me more determined than ever to do everything I can to push this stupid disease back into remission.

If only it was that easy.  My hands and feet are swollen all of the time.  I have inflammation of my Costal Joints which makes it painful to move and breathe but I’m luckier than most.  I have a cheerleader who keeps me pumped up.  She doesn’t let me give into the pain.

I’ve always been determined not to let RA define me.  I may have to make adjustments to my life but it will not become the center of my life.  I have too much to do, lol.

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What drives me crazy is those who compare RA with OA (Osteoarthritis).  It’s not the same.  Yes my bones and joints are affected like OA but it is completely different.  I have an autoimmune disease.  My body is attacking itself.  OA is a natural wearing of your joints.  It’s not the same.

Please stop telling me if I drink Apple Cider Vinegar I will be healed…because I won’t.  Stop telling me its mind over matter…because it’s not.  Please stop telling me you were healed by your Chiropractor because I won’t be healed by an adjustment.  So in short…Just stop.  I thank you for your concern but you don’t know what you are talking about.

That is all.